Relationship SERIES: Is the individual-oriented mentality more beneficial than the community-oriented one in relationships

September 25, 2020September 25, 2020 simplyladyevergreen

Today I wanted to write a short post on the dance between individual and community oriented mentalities in relationships. Depending on your individual culture and where you are in the world, the balance weighs more in the direction of one or the other. In the western culture, the balance is weighed more towards individuality. The needs, wants, preferences and desires of the individual trump the needs and wants of a group whether that is family, group of friends or community at large.

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Relationship SERIES: How to have a thriving and peaceful marriage long term

September 25, 2020September 25, 2020 simplyladyevergreen

Welcome back to the blog! Today we are continuing the Relationship Series with one of my favorite topics. Having a thriving marriage when divorce rates are 50% may sound like a ruthless joke and depending on where you find yourself in life, it can seem impossible especially if you have been burnt and hurt like many people’s hearts have been. This will NOT be another post about marriage and relationships meant to take you foreign paths and run after an impossible ideal such as “4 tips ensuring he never leaves” or “how to get what you need right now”. A successful marriage takes diligent work yet not the kind of work that sucks the energy out of you because it has this unique exponential quality that the more you work on yourself the more the marriage grows. There are so many tips I could list that build a strong foundation for marriage it would hardly fit in one blog post. I will try and share the most important pillars that will grow your marriage’s roots stronger:

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Relationship SERIES: The captivating duality of femininity and masculinity

August 20, 2020August 20, 2020 simplyladyevergreenLeave a comment

Welcome back to the blog beautiful readers, today’s topic is very dear to my heart and I will explore different facets of it with you in the future as well as I believe our creator has contoured each and every one of us with very unique and specific designs in mind. For that reason, it is important to get to know both ourselves and our creator in order to honor that design. I believe as humans we all have common shared purposes but at the same time, we all have very unique paths we are called to walk on as well. That design is closely tied to the concept of femininity and masculinity. As natural as these topics are, they can be very controversial these days. My vision with discussing this topic is not tying ourselves up into more stereotypes about how femininity and masculinity should look like but instead discover our unique cocktail, get joy from it and become freer.

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Relationship SERIES: Stress in marriage and how women and men can be each other’s best allies in times of stress

June 17, 2020August 20, 2020 simplyladyevergreen

This article is the first in the relationship series as I believe the ability to deal with stress and to know oneself, know the signs when we become stressed and how to fulfill our own needs to the best of our ability is an incredible asset to have in our toolbox in order to maintain a harmonious marriage.

Stress is inevitable in our lives, the most important is knowing how to best deal with it. When stress is gone our differences are never a problem. Reminiscing about the beginning of the relationship, we remember feelings of ease, butterflies in the stomach and many joyful smiles. We can absolutely maintain that beautiful state, it just takes some education and discipline. In the beginning, stress is usually lower. Once the relationship unfolds and more routine and daily life difficulties settle in, stress increases.

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Relationships SERIES: What’s going on with relationships these days?

May 31, 2020June 23, 2020 simplyladyevergreenLeave a comment

Growing up I loved watching and seeing couples in love. Spying from the corner of my eye as they exchanged smiles and laughter, held hands and gave each other kisses used to be one of my favorite activities. I wonder if they ever saw someone was watching them or if they were so engulfed in their love that nothing could get their attention. There is nothing like two people who truly love each other and only have beaming eyes for one another. I vowed to myself to build such a relationship when I grow up. It seemed so beautiful to have access to such an experience as an adult… so life giving! Oh how I wanted to speed the growing up process! To feel supported, loved and seen… so inspiring! Those couples had something that other people seemed to lack; they had a light about themselves and I was attracted to them as a bee to honey! They had wings to face the many challenges that life threw their way in ways other people did not.. Those people were ALIVE!

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How to thrive in school / university when living with toxic family members

April 26, 2020June 23, 2020 simplyladyevergreen

Living with toxic family members is the unfortunate reality of many teenagers and young adults nowadays. The added stress and emotional roller coaster take a toll on the body and mind and much time is needed for it to recalibrate and function in normal day to day activities. Moreover, they have very detrimental effects on the mental resources and focus which are needed to pass your classes and graduate your program. Stress and memorizing tonnes of information certainly do not go hand-in-hand.

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How to cope with chronic illness as a couple

February 28, 2020June 23, 2020 simplyladyevergreen2 Comments

Disease is one of the unpredictable events of life which hits us like a ton of bricks. It never asks for our opinion and it completely disrupts our day to day life. We don’t see it coming and are seldom prepared for how to deal with it. Suddenly, this reality does not belong only to “people out there” but it is right in our cozy home. Not only does it take a bit hit on our morale but also it takes its toll on our mental health, relationships, and sense of accomplishment. At the end of the day everything is stalled and we now need to reroute, stop our plans, delay our goals and face this challenge that we know not much about.

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